According to Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: the New Psychology of Success, “much of what you think of as your personality actually grows out of this mindset. Much of what may prevent you from fulfilling your potential grows out of “mindset.[“]”
For much of my adult life, I struggled with a fixed mindset because I was a perfectionist. I shrunk back at challenges. I saw obstacles as setbacks. I did not see failure as an opportunity as growth, and I saw feedback as criticism. I was jealous of others who were doing better than me.
It was not until I started doing personal development that I realized my thinking was paralyzing me. I thought to be a perfectionist was a good thing; however, it was actually hindering my growth as a learner, leader, and as a businesswoman.
I decided to dig deeper into personal development, particularly Growth Mindset. Carol Dweck states, “the growth mindset is based on the belief that your basic qualities are things that you can cultivate through your effort, your strategies, and help from others. People differ in their aptitudes, talents, temperaments, and interests, everyone can grow and change through experience and application.”
Now, when faced with a challenge, I embrace it. I see it as an opportunity to grow and stretch myself. Instead of running away from a challenge I meet it face on with perseverance and resiliency.
Obstacles are just minor setbacks! Setbacks allow you to find other solutions to solve the problem. I see this as an opportunity to dig deep and get creative to find the resolution.
With being a perfectionist, I would push myself to get the job done but did not care if I mastered the project. With a growth mindset, you give your best effort as part of mastery.
Before, I saw feedback as criticism as being negative. Now, I see it as an opportunity for growth. I want feedback from peers and mentors so that I can grow in my field.
Once where I saw other people succeeding as a negative thing, now I see it as an opportunity seek them out for advice or being a possible mentor. I am no longer jealous of other people’s successes. I have learned to stay in my own lane and be proud of my accomplishments. And to not compare myself to others.
It is never too late to develop a growth mindset! I would suggest starting with reading personal development and working on yourself! And…..
- Embrace Challenges
- Persists in Facing Setbacks
- Sees Effort in as Part of Mastery
- Learns From Criticism
- Finds Inspiration from the Success of Others
If you are interested in more information on a Growth Mindset, please join me for my upcoming Book Study where we will be reading Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck. Send me a message, and I will send you details.