“Self-care is giving the world the best of you, instead of what is left of you.” Katie Reed
I believe the above quote says so much because as women we often pour from an empty vessel. We give to others first before we fill our own cup, so in reality they are not getting the best version of ourselves. They are getting the tired, cranky, negative, beaten down version. Because we choose not to pour into our cups.
What would happen if we poured into our cup first, so the world got the best of us? We would show up differently! We would be positive, energetic, creative, present, and not beaten down.
I wanted to be the most perfect mom, so I let go of self-care after I had my first child. Yes, I showered and threw on makeup; however, I stopped pampering myself because I did not want people to think I was selfish. I started to burn my candle at both ends. Next, add two more children to the mix all while working from home. By the third baby, I was living in yoga pants and makeup went out the window.
Slowly, I realized my husband was not getting the best of me, let alone the world. I needed to do something different. I joined a virtual book club were we read Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. This book was a game-changer. I now wake up 2 hours before my children wake up to get work done, have time for myself, and get my workout complete. Instead of watching TV, I listen to Podcasts that lift my soul or I learn something new.
After the kids go to bed, I now spend time with my husband then I go to bed, so I can wake up early the next morning. I am learning to pamper myself by making an effort to look nice even if I am just staying home. I paint my nails, give myself a facial, use my nighttime creams and morning creams so my face looks healthy.
By doing this, I am teaching my kids the importance of taking care of themselves too. I want them to always present themselves to the world with their best foot forward and never to pour from an empty cup. My kids are getting the best of me, my husband is getting the best of me, my clients are getting the best of me, and my community is getting the best of me. And for once, nobody is getting what is left of me.