The truth is comparing ourselves to others doesn’t just steal our joy, it robs those around us of the rare gift of a woman who has learned her uniqueness to the world.
It can be a dark and lonely place when we start playing the comparison game. For so long, I lived in that world of comparing myself to others. I would play games with myself believing I was not good enough. It started at an early age when I danced and carried on into my adulthood. I would nitpick myself to death over the silliest things because I thought I was never good enough.
I would compare my parenting to other mom’s out there. I would strive for perfection. Guess what? Perfection does not exist. Plus, I was not allowing myself to form deep relationships with other moms because I was constantly comparing myself to them. How can you form an intimate relationship when you think they are better than you. It was not until I started to see a therapist, and I joined my local MOPs group did I allow real relationships to form.
I started reading self-development books, where I grew my mind. I learned that we are all created differently with different talents and gifts. Since our talents and gifts are so unique to us, we should celebrate them instead of comparing each other. I learned to stay in my own lane and focus on me not others. I know look at other women and see how I can learn and grow from them!
Here are some ways I stopped the comparison game. First, you need to become aware you are comparing yourself to others. It is so easy to get trapped in the comparison game because of Social Media. Second, when you find yourself doing it, you need to stop yourself. Instead, try to think of a compliment for the person you are comparing yourself to and then think of a compliment for yourself. Third, focus on your strengths and be okay with your imperfections. Fourth, don’t knock others down. We are all doing the best we can. Straighten each other’s crown instead of knocking it down. Fifth, focus on your own journey. Stay the course and live your dreams. Finally, you need to learn to love yourself, your talents, and your uniqueness!